Put Yourself Out There…

Scary thought isn’t it?

Memories of times you have been hurt, rejected, used, flood your mind and instantly the walls come up, your defense kicks in, and lies get confused with truth.

“They won’t understand you”
“They will use you, again”
“You aren’t worthy to be known”

And then the question comes…”What do they want from me?”

I’ve been observing the way people relate to each other lately, even the way I relate to others.  It is easy to do, living in community.  What I’ve really begun to see is the way fear has changed the perspective on relationships and relating to others.

How many times have you viewed relationships through the perspective of “What will they take from me?” or even “What can I get?” and then the relationship only goes so far or eventually ends as our guards go up and we don’t let someone past a certain point.

My nephew Tyler (Photo by Jackie)

When really shouldn’t the perspective be, “What can I give?”  If we are really choosing to Live in the confidence and truth of who we are, as Christ in us, shouldn’t that be the way we relate to others?  Imagine if Christ held back a part of who He is.  God gives so abundantly and we are worried about what people will take from us or what we can get from others?  It just doesn’t make sense sometimes.  And know that I say this as a reminder to myself as well…

Now, I understand, there is wisdom in not being foolish, but consider those relationships in your life?  Are you giving?  Are you being you? 

Put yourself out there, because I know I want to know and appreciate the real you… 

Life Complete or Completely Living?

At the end of the day, what are your actions speaking?  
Is your end goal, a life complete or completely living?

I have met many young people over the past few years.  It is such an interesting time in life when the world is in front of you and you feel the freedom to go in any direction.  Some pray for wisdom.  Some just run after their passions.  And others just don’t know what they want to do.  They hear the same questions, so what do you want to do with your life?  What is your next step?  It is fun to dream, to set goals, and it is a good thing.  And so they dream, they plan, and all for the hope of a fruitful life once the goals are met.

Yet, life is happening along the way.  It doesn’t automatically start when you get married, when you start a family, when you buy a house, when you get that big raise or that vacation home in the mediterranean.  Yes, life changes with each new role you step into, with each person you meet, with the decisions you make along the way, but life happens everyday!

The question is, are you living it?


A World of Differences. A Lifetime of Learning.

Change has been happening here a lot lately, requiring a shift of focus, increased responsibility, and an open mind to appreciate the newness of this time.  This of course, has created a schedule with limited time to blog or really correspond with my close friends and family, but is exciting nonetheless.  There are some things on the forefront that I am excited to share with you as the details began to sort themselves out.

But for now, I just want to share with you what the underlying message of all this transition has been….learning from those around me.Yes, sometimes it’s frustrating, but how stagnant I would be if I was never challenged by others with different perspectives, different skills, different personalities, and the different knowledge that they offer.  It is interesting to see how each person adds to different parts of your life and vice versa.

So I am going to continue to learn, and to share, and actually appreciate the greatness that takes place as we learn from each other.  What are you learning?