Scary thought isn’t it?
Memories of times you have been hurt, rejected, used, flood your mind and instantly the walls come up, your defense kicks in, and lies get confused with truth.
“They won’t understand you”
“They will use you, again”
“You aren’t worthy to be known”
And then the question comes…”What do they want from me?”
I’ve been observing the way people relate to each other lately, even the way I relate to others. It is easy to do, living in community. What I’ve really begun to see is the way fear has changed the perspective on relationships and relating to others.
How many times have you viewed relationships through the perspective of “What will they take from me?” or even “What can I get?” and then the relationship only goes so far or eventually ends as our guards go up and we don’t let someone past a certain point.
When really shouldn’t the perspective be, “What can I give?” If we are really choosing to Live in the confidence and truth of who we are, as Christ in us, shouldn’t that be the way we relate to others? Imagine if Christ held back a part of who He is. God gives so abundantly and we are worried about what people will take from us or what we can get from others? It just doesn’t make sense sometimes. And know that I say this as a reminder to myself as well…
Now, I understand, there is wisdom in not being foolish, but consider those relationships in your life? Are you giving? Are you being you?
Put yourself out there, because I know I want to know and appreciate the real you…